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On The Dark Side

I have such a thing for big belled sleeves; I bought this dress 30% because it was pretty and fit well, and 70% because of those sleeves.

The thing for big belled sleeves dates back to my sophomore year of high school, when my three best friends and I decided - mostly because of The Craft, I think, because we were original like that - that we were witches. All of us were into it to varying degrees, but I took our pastime one step further: I locked myself in my bedroom and performed candle spells before wandering down to the Hudson to toss the burned wicks into the running water, devoured book after book after book about Wicca, attended group meetings at our local pagan bookstore (this freaked out my parents until they attended one with me and realized that it was actually a very nice group of people), and started wearing things like purple velvet robes and tie-dyed gowns with sleeves that trailed on the floor to school. (And yes, these outfits were received approximately as well by my 15-year-old classmates as you'd imagine.)

It wasn't the best time in my life: for some reason, the moment between childhood and young adulthood was a frightening one for me, and I spent a lot of my time feeling so alone that I didn't know how to even begin to climb back out into the real world, where I'd heard that people lived. There was an entire summer when I did very little other than take the M11 bus up Amsterdam Avenue and then back down Columbus, stopping off at Barnes & Noble to sit cross-legged on the floor and read books for awhile before going home to light some candles and stare into the pendulum that my aunt had given me, hoping it would tell me something different.

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Links & Love & Stuff

Remember my guide to buying your very first home? Reader Allegra wrote a guide for buying an apartment in Manhattan (totally its own beast).

My skin did not enjoy two cross-country flights in four days. These skin peel wipes have been helping to clear up the situation.

I now own leather shorts. I'm pretty excited about this. (Shooting them this weekend.)

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Tailored Trousers, Three Ways

I'm an all-jeans, all-the-time person. I wear them with everything, and I wear them everywhere: on dates, to dinner, to meetings...everywhere. Major wardrobe ruts certainly make getting dressed easy, and I love my jeans, but still:

Sometimes you want to switch it up.

Tailored trousers (especially cropped to ankle length) are everywhere this fall, and such a fun way to feel just a touch more pulled-together, even on the weekend.

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In The Village

You know how they say "it takes a village to raise a child"? Well, it may not be a "rule" - I mean, we made the decision to move our son to a town where we knew exactly no one, and it's been great in many ways, if sometimes challenging - but having someone who gets exactly what you're going through standing right there next to you so you can do the raising together? It's not just "easier." Or "more manageable."

It's those things, yes...but mostly it just makes it easier to laugh at the things that can feel not-so-funny when you're all on your own.

When Morgan and I were talking on the phone last week and decided that I'd get on a flight and come to San Francisco for a few days, it was about more than just "wanting" to spend some time together. Both of us were in a moment where we were feeling something that went beyond "overwhelmed" and straight into "I can't do this" territory, and I think we both needed to see that it was okay and that how we were feeling was not just fine, but normal, and have someone to look at when all three of our children started screaming at the top of their lungs in unison about nothing at all...and crack up.

I've laughed so much these past few days.

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This Friday: Wear Denim To Work

Want to wear jeans to work? This Friday you can, and support the fight against breast cancer while doing it.

October 4 is National Denim Day, and Lee Denim has partnered with the American Cancer Society for a fundraiser in which participants donate $5 or more in exchange for wearing jeans to work. Click here to learn more (and to start a team with your colleagues so you can support the movement together).

Oh yes: and if you're looking for wear-denim-to-work inspiration, I've got you covered (these are inspired by the looks we put together at last week's Redbook Magazine event).

 

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Fish Behind Glass Walls And Other Prizes For Grownups

You know how I said I wasn't really "a zoo person"?

Well, I'm not really "an aquarium person" either.

I mean...eh. I've generally always felt that there are things more exciting than glass walls with fish behind them. Like eating those fish with soy sauce on top, or looking at things that make noise, like movies.

Anyway, I'd like to retract that statement. I was not "an aquarium person" for the bulk of my lifetime, up until the point when I had a child and discovered that zoos and aquariums are basically prizes for parents. You get your children's arms into jackets that they clearly view as the visible manifestation of misery and confinement, pack up their diaper bags, maneuver them into their five-point harnesses (we've got three kids riding in one backseat at the moment, so the simple act of fitting together all those puzzle pieces is a pretty impressive feat in and of itself), wrestle them through the front doors of wherever you're going, pay your million-dollar entry fee, and: