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Target faux wrap bikini in multiple colors

{ Desert Hot Springs, CA }

 The wine delivery service Wine Simple (which uses a personalized taste profile to recommend wines you'll love) is offering RG readers 20% off with code RGVIP20. Not an ad; just a present because I like wine and I'm fairly certain you do, too.

 Like everyone on the Internet, I'm all about the off-the-shoulder tops for spring. I bought this one at BCBG the other night in white, and it comes in a blue-and-white-stripe pattern too, and both are perfect and amazing and I think you should own one. Or two.

Anxiety

Why I Had A Post-Baby Breast Augmentation (A Video Diary)

A breast augmentation after breastfeeding children

I expected my breasts to change after breastfeeding two children, but I didn't expect them to change quite as much as they did. Going from a C to a G to a god-knows-what-I-was-when-my-milk-came-in and back down to a B twice in three years apparently does a bit of a number on you, and when everything finally "settled," as it were, it settled down (...ha?).

But it wasn't "what I looked like" that was the problem, exactly - it was how I felt. I mean it when I say that I'm more or less happy with my body - sometimes I love it, sometimes I wish some things about it looked a little different, just like anyone. It hasn't always been this way - I've written here and there about the anorexia I suffered from when I was in my early twenties (and will write about it more one day, when I can) - and trust me: after that experience I'm well aware of what it feels like to hate your body.

I don't hate my body. I don't hate my breasts, either. But after having two children, and having them go through such dramatic changes, they ended up virtually unrecognizable to me; they barely even felt like mine. I had no sense of them as a part of my body, and certainly didn't connect them to my sense of sexual identity.

DIARY

Party All Night

This may just look like a bed, but let me assure you: it is paradise.

Let me start by introducing you to Morgan's guest bedroom. This bed is, for no especially concrete reason, one of the most comfortable beds that has ever existed in the world (and it's not just me who thinks this; everyone who comes to visit says so). I asked her to tell me what kind of bed it is, what sheets she uses, etc, so I can try to recreate it for my own visitors, but really all it is is an Ikea futon with a really nice memory foam mattress topper and sheets that are super soft because they're really old.

So I can't really explain why it's the best, but you'll just have to trust me on this. It's the best.

Anxiety

Unbalanced

Mother and daughter laughing in black and white

Let me tell you about the moment when I realized that even though my work is incredibly important to me, I need more separation, and I need to be able to shut off sometimes - not just in a half-assed way (where I'm technically playing with my kids but 60% of my brain is devoted to the email I need to remember to send by the end of the day), but all the way.

And I need to do this on purpose, because it doesn't come naturally.

This realization has happened to various degrees many times over the years, but it really happened - like, can't-get-it-out-of-my-head-happened - a little less than a year ago, when I was visiting a Children's Science Museum with Indy and Goldie. They were playing with this massive model of hills and trees and buffalos, and I was half-watching them play and half-checking my text messages because even though I'd taken the afternoon off I still needed (wanted?) to make sure everything was cool work-wise, and suddenly I looked up and realized how photogenic and symmetrical the background was and how great the colors were, and thought, oh hey - I should Instagram this! It's cute! And symmetrical! And those colors!

Lifestyle

Finding The Work/Life Balance, Part I (In Which I Actually Answer The Question)

Playing with a science kit for kids

My son and me on a Sunday morning. This photo was not taken for Ramshackle Glam.

Today's question, from reader MS, comes from the comments under this style post.

I'm curious how you balance the kind of work you do with making time to be in the moment. You mentioned that this was a "date night," but it also has a work component, given the photos and subsequent post. Do you get [these photos] out of the way in the beginning, or save [them] for the end? Do you ever feel like [your work] intrudes [on your life]?

Anxiety

Just A Pixel In The Picture

Jordan Reid and her husband Kendrick Strauch

For a long time - longer than I wanted to admit, and certainly longer than felt "okay" - Kendrick and I were not getting along.

I wrote about it in this post, back in January '15, at a point when I thought we were on the way up towards a place where we'd be better - back to the couple I know we are, or at least want us to be - but it took much, much longer than that.

I've gotten emails from a few readers, and a few comments here and there - "I've noticed you haven't been writing much personal stuff; are you okay?" - and the answer is...well first, damn you guys are observant. And second: no, I wasn't okay, and part of why I wasn't okay was because I was trying to - to some extent, anyway - pretend that I was, because while I write about my life on this site, there are some things that are too upsetting to present for public consumption, like my fear that my marriage wasn’t everything I wanted it to be.

Lifestyle

Anna Wintour: The New York Magazine Years (1981-1983)

{ From "Neighborhood Style" by Anna Wintour | New York Magazine, 1983 }

Yesterday morning Erin sent me an email with a link to an old issue of New York Magazine and the subject line "SO GOOD." You can see what she was talking about if you go to here; it's a 1983 issue of NY Mag, and if you scroll down you'll find an article on "Neighborhood Style" by Anna Wintour showcasing interiors from various NYC neighborhoods - everywhere from Greenwich Village to Hell's Kitchen to the Upper East Side, and it really is. SO good.

I couldn't find upload-able images from that article to show you (the above is just a screenshot, and it's a shame to show you these interiors in anything but the highest of hi-res), but my search sent me down a rabbit hole of amazing New York Magazine Anna Wintour shoots from 1981-1983 (when she left to join Vogue) that...well, if you've ever wondered why she's considered such a force of nature, these should clear it up.

Eat

In The Spring Kitchen

{ Pictured: Noritake Hertford and Rochelle Gold China }

How we celebrated the arrival of spring (YAYYYY): with a seafood-and-wildflower-inclusive dinner in our backyard. As annoying as daylight savings is - I mean really, trying to convince a four year old and a one and a half year old that "yes, I'm aware that it looks like it's noon outside but for real, go brush your teeth and go to bed" is the very definition of an exercise in futility - it's also so exciting, finally getting back those extra hours that we can spend taking an after-dinner walk in the park, or leaving the windows open so we can listen to neighborhood kids playing basketball, or sitting in the hammock with a book, or many of the other myriad uber-suburban activities that I never knew were particularly my jam but that I now, officially in my mid-thirties, have discovered are what make me the very happiest.

I want to ride bikes (well, no: more accurately I want to sit on the stoop with a beer and watch my kids ride bikes, but same difference). I want to have picnics in the park. I want to garden.

Eat

My Gluten-Free Month: A Strangely Worthwhile Experiment

Greek yogurt with roasted pineapple and honey

About a month ago, I put up this post, in which I talked about how Kendrick and I had decided to try being gluten-free for a month (him for health reasons, me to be supportive because it's hard to make a major dietary change, and even harder when you're doing it all on your own). It was an interesting experiment, but not exactly for the reasons I thought it would be.

The thing is, gluten isn't "bad" for you. I knew this going in; of course - while some people legitimately suffer from diseases (such as celiac, or certain autoimmune diseases) that are exacerbated by the presence of gluten in their diet - gluten itself isn't the enemy, as much as the companies who are profiting off of gluten-free everythings (which, as an aside, are HOLY expensive) would like you to believe that it is. That said, I'm pretty sure we as a population eat too much of the stuff. I'm definitely sure that I do. Because pasta is delicious.

Before we go on: to say I was 100% gluten-free over the past month would be oh, such a lie. I can't tell you how many times I slipped up, just because I'm so used to picking at my kids' food completely mindlessly, and nearly every day - at least in the beginning - I had a bite of my daughter's macaroni and cheese or a piece of tempura in my mouth before I even realized it. But this mindlessness that I have towards food extends beyond plucking from my kids' plates; over the past few years I've given so little thought to what I eat on a daily basis that all of a sudden having cause to give it even a second of my attention was a dramatic shift...and the effect that this ended up having was actually kind of...cool.