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The Less-Pretty Picture

I had this post I was planning to write today; a post about breakfast hacks. About how my kids have developed this habit of each requiring highly specific breakfasts, in addition to their highly specific lunches (I literally have to use my body to block their line of vision while assembling their sandwiches, or else there is a significant probability that my daughter will burst into soul-wrenching tears because I put the jelly on top of the peanut butter before placing the other slice of bread on top, as opposed to putting peanut butter on one slice and jelly on the other slice, and only then putting the slices together).

I know you know this already, but it bears repeating: The images that you see on my site - on many, if not most professional bloggers' sites - don't always reflect reality. When you see a photo like that one up there, you're seeing what my life looks like when I have lipstick on, and take the time to wipe down my countertops, and have a professional photographer present making sure that the angle of the shot doesn't reveal the crusty pots in the sink. Sometimes when my children are looking all sweet and happy in photos, it's because I've told them that sure, we can go see Peter Rabbit later, not because the food I made them was just so fucking delicious that they felt compelled to burst into spontaneous expressions of joy.

I like coming up with ideas for pretty pictures; I like creating them and editing them and crafting posts around them. Imagery is a part of my job, and it's a part that I enjoy.

But it's important to me to be crystal-clear about which parts are real, and which parts are just photographs that help me tell a story - because pretending otherwise helps no one.

Before & After Renovations

Before And After: How We Turned Our Garage Into A Multi-Functional Living Space

Our garage spruce-up was supposed to be exactly that: a spruce-up. Perhaps a coat of paint. Maybe a throw pillow or two.

We did not start out intending to take on a project that would ultimately transform our garage from a cluttered, creepy-ish hole into the most useful (and most-used) room in our home - not to mention one that would add another 500 square feet (at least) to our living space.

It all started in July (SEVEN MONTHS AGO, if you're counting), when we decided that we wanted to move our old couch into the garage rather than sell or toss it. But then once we decided to put the couch in the garage, we thought we might as well redo the floor. And if we were redoing the floor, we might as well paint the walls. And if we were painting the walls, we might as well take down the old shelving. And if we were taking down the old shelving, we'd need some new storage solutions, and oh wait, Kendrick would love to have a dedicated space for his instruments, and shoot, skylights would really make the whole place feel so much nicer, and...

DIY

I Invented A Thing


When I was in New York a couple of weeks ago I discovered my old black-and-white Ann Taylor swing coat sitting in my bedroom closet, and decided I wanted to wear to that day's meetings. But it was 30 degrees outside and the jacket had elbow-length sleeves, so I decided that I should probably wear it with long leather gloves so as to prevent my wrists from falling off. But then I realized that neither my mother nor I own a pair of long leather gloves.

Decor

Easy Decor Ideas To Transform Your Bathroom Into A Relaxing Oasis Of Joy

So many light sources! So gorgeous! So flattering when naked!

Remember how I said I take a bath every single night of my life? That was true, until very, very recently: I haven't been able to take a bath since my operation last Tuesday, and won't be able to take one for another week. Maybe two. Lots of aspects of my current medical situation are less-than-fun, but taking away my nightly bubbles/late night TV/wine routine feels like adding insult to injury.

But instead of dwelling on the fact that there is a clawfoot bathtub ten feet away from me that I'm not allowed to use, let's dwell on bathrooms more generally - because all the bathroom-obsessing I've been doing over the past few months has left me with a bunch of easy ideas for those of you whose bathroom could use a little extra atmosphere.

Home

If I’m Missing, You Know Where To Find Me

The bathroom is still under construction, but once it's done I'm never leaving.

Can I just say that I love my job SO. MUCH. I’m not sure everybody would be as excited about the subject of cleaning products as I am - I do get that I’m possibly an outlier in this department - but cleaning is soooooooort of one of my favorite things in the world (second only to throwing things out), and I cannot believe that I just got to spend a week getting all fluttery about bathroom-cleaning strategies with rooms full of people who are equally fluttery about such things.

The central product I was in New York to talk about was Clorox®’s new Scentiva™ scent, Pacific Breeze & Coconut™, and specifically the new Scentiva™ products that are targeted at cleaning the bathroom. The reason I joined the team was that I’m baaaaasically the exact target audience for the line, being a person whose bathroom is her ultimate nobody-bother-me-I’m-drinking-wine-and-watching-late-night-TV-clips-in-a-pile-of-bubbles spot - I literally take a bath every single night of my life (I know you don’t believe me. I swear. I missed my nightly bath for the first time in months a few days ago because our new bathtub - pictured above - was in the process of being installed, and it was very sad.)

My Looks

Walking Rainbow

Oversized Sweater | Embroidered Jeans | Jimmy Choo Boots (similar) | Bag*

Francesca had to force me to buy this outfit. Not the sweater - that I was obviously going home with, especially since it was $29.99 on sale, and can, if you go by the photograph on Zara's site, be worn without pants (weeeee); it was the jeans that I was eh about.

"They look like they belonged to Blossom," I told her.

DIARY

I Lost My Fallopian Tube From An Ectopic Pregnancy, And I Don’t Think I Had To

This is a sad post, so here is a happy picture.

Since I last posted about what I thought was a miscarriage, my medical situation has gotten pretty significantly worse, and even though right now I'm laying in bed with bandages all over my torso and can't really move, I wanted to write about this because for some reason doing so is functioning as a kind of in-real-time therapy for me. And also because I had no idea that what happened to me over the past week could happen, and it didn't have to, and I'd really like it to not happen to anyone else.

Lifestyle

10 Gorgeous Gift Ideas For Valentine’s Day

My kind of V-day celebration: A trip to the tattoo parlor.

Valentine's Day is a holiday I tend to skip over - or at least forget about until the very last second. When gifts are involved, though, I'm OK with them being a bit traditional - perfume, pajamas, that kind of thing. But I also realllllly don't like giving (or receiving) gifts that won't actually be used. It makes me anxious.

Last year, around Valentine's Day, Kendrick and I were going through a rough patch, and so I put in more effort than I think I've ever put into a gift in my life: I made him one of those personalized "The Story of Us" books, and it ended up being something we both pick up every once in awhile, when we need a reminder of what it is we're doing here. (And it doesn't have to be cheesy at all; I'll do an IG story later on today showing you a few pages of the one I made for K in case you want to make one and could use some ideas.)